Mash Project Foundation organized a session about “Creating Thriving Relationship“ on 30th August 2020. The speaker for the session was Ms. Vishwa Modi. She is a mental health therapist at The Mood Space.
It was an interactive session focused on how to create a thriving relationship where she shared her learning, experiences and discussed the problems that participants have faced. She focused on identifying and discussing ways to improve relationships in this hectic life. The session helped all the participants to introspect where they are going wrong and how they can improve it.
Vishwa started the session by explaining the word relationship. She highlighted the essential elements of a thriving relationship – trust, love, respect, understanding, holding space, communication, sense of humor, sharing tasks, intimacy, commitment, transparency, validation, and support. She discussed every element with the participants in detail. Further, she discussed the types of relationship dilemmas. Vishwa said it is the responsibility of both the partners in the relationship to discuss their relationship and give space to each other.There are four quality and collaborative connections – spiritual connect, emotionally connect, intellectual connect, and physical connect. Then, she asked how participants were feeling at that particular moment to understand their emotional state. Further, she emphasized on the importance to check one’s feelings with a friend/family/partner or vice- versa and to recognize, communicate and understand correctly.
There are three major attachment styles- Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant. She talked about the significance of “Self” amidst all. She discussed how important it is to know yourself and your needs, value, and expectations from a relationship. Further, she explained the difference between Interdependency and codependency and how it is required to keep the balance of both.Ms. Vishwa ventilated about the mindful strategies to a thriving relationship by explaining a famous quote by Joyce Meyer that “ We can improve your relationship with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics.”
The following are some critical skills laid down by Ms. Vishwa Modi for a thriving relationship that helps in the long run.
- Identification of needs and communicating them
- Set Boundaries
- Be curious
- Ask open-ended questions
- Remind them of your presence
- Holding space
- Respond vs React
Before ending the session, she talked about Mood space which is an affordable e-counseling platform that aims to support individuals dealing with stress, anxiety, depression and other mental health-related concerns. The session ended with some follow up questions from the participants regarding relationships and Vishwa gave a small activity to all the participants to ask the following questions about themselves and their relationships
- How are you really doing?
- Am I respecting my needs and boundaries?
- How was the week with respect to my relationships ( be specific about the kind of relationship)?
- What do you look forward to with respect to your relationships this coming week?